If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a situation and sat back to analyze why, you’ve probably realized that fear lies at the heart of the problem. Fear can keep us from moving forward with a job, a move, a new idea, and especially a relationship. Fear can also keep us in the wrong situation for far too long!
I don’t want you to live in fear any longer because I KNOW that you want to get out there and find the one for you! Yes, it can be scary, but you know what? It can REALLY be fun too!
Here are 3 fears that can keep you stuck and single (or with the wrong guy) AND how to get over them!
- Fear of the Unknown—Your current comfort zone is a box of your limiting beliefs— and 95% of them are unconscious—yet we hate taking risks because we don’t want to step out of our comfort zone. You’re probably not even consciously aware of what’s stopping you from having what you want, though. And even worse, you’re not willing to look at those limiting beliefs because they make you feel bad. You’re addicted to the knowns in your life, and that leaves no room for change.
What to do: You have to start taking bigger risks and showing up with a lot more emotional courage if you want to be in a relationship with your Soulmate. Soulmate relationships require you to take more emotional risks because that’s how you create more intimacy in your relationship.
- Fear of Rejection—This fear is just a way to avoid yourself and try to make another responsible for giving you the love, acceptance, approval, and worth you crave. Or you’re denying yourself those things because you do not know how to give those things to yourself, so you can hide in rejection. It’s easy, and it’s also lazy.
What to do: Try thinking of rejection as “re-direction” and give yourself the love and acceptance you need to feel safe enough inside to step out of your comfort zone and take more risks that include men. When you don’t take responsibility for how you feel, then the only person who ever rejects you is you.
- Fear of Being Hurt—When you fear being hurt, you are unconsciously giving your power to those who have hurt you before and letting them determine FOR you whether you have WORTH after something painful has occurred. The truth is that you NEED to have someone dispense forgiveness, approval and acceptance to you that is controlling you and keeping you from letting go and moving on.
What to do: It’s time to empower yourself with this healing paradox:
When you take the reins of your life back into your own hands, you will discover how amazing you truly are, and when you do that, a man will too!