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6 Signs That A Man Will Commit
Let’s talk about the six signs that a man will commit. The first one is intentionality. This is important because it starts from the beginning. Is he asking you out on a date or is he saying, “Do you want to hang out?” A man that asked you on a date is definitely interested in pursuing you. A man that says, “Do you want to hang out?”, you don’t know what that means. You might want to clarify and ask him, “Are you asking me out on a date?” If he says, “I want to hang out,” then you might want to say no. You want to be intentional as well because you want to find your soulmate. You want to settle down. You want to be in a long-term committed relationship. You need to be intentional. Do not go out with men that want to hang out. Don’t waste your time. They’re going to friend zone you.
Consistency And Reliability
The second of the six signs if a man’s going to commit to you is consistency and reliability. You have to watch his consistency and reliability. Is he following up with you after your dates? Is he texting you? Is he keeping in touch with you? Is he keeping his commitments? You want to see if he values your time by making sure that it includes him. He wants to know that you’re available to him if he’s interested in a commitment. He’s going to be asking you out, making future plans with you, and he’s going to be making you a priority. If he’s not doing that, he doesn’t see you as a priority and he sees you can maybe be bumped for something better that comes along. You want to look at those things closely. All these signs are going to help you stay focused and clear on your path, so you don’t get off track to attracting your soulmate.A man that's interested in committing to you is going to be willing to take it slow. Click To Tweet
Sign number three if he’s going to commit to you: is he direct and is he a good communicator? He takes you out on a great date and he didn’t call you for a couple of weeks. Maybe he texts you every day of the week and then he disappears on the weekend and you don’t hear from him for 48 hours. He doesn’t text you at all during the weekend, but then he blows up your phone over the weekend. He’s not being direct, and he doesn’t have good communication skills. Maybe he’s not quite serious yet. He loves the flirting fun that he’s having with you. If he’s thinking about you in a serious way, he is not going to be playing any games at all. He’s going to be direct and he’s going to communicate that to you in his actions.
The fourth sign that a man’s going to commit to you is exclusivity. Exclusivity is when he’s made it clear that he wants to see you and only you. How he’s going to show you he’s moving in that direction is that he’s seeking out time with you and he’s planning ahead. He’s not planning ahead to do social things like movies and concerts, even though those are great. In the beginning, you want chunks of time together so that you can get to know each other. If you’re spending the day together and it rolls into an evening, that’s fantastic because that shows you he’s interested in getting to know you and he wants to spend more time with you. Look at the time and the quality of time. Not quantity necessarily, quality. Not spending it with groups and not spending it in social situations where you’re not able to talk and go deeper and discover the deeper things about each other and then have those deeper shares.
Taking It Slow
Here’s your fifth sign that a man’s going to commit to you. He’s going to be taking it slow. I know this sounds counterproductive, but a man that’s interested in committing to you is going to be willing to take it slow because he also wants to get to know you before he jumps into bed with you. The relationship that started out fast and furious and hot usually burns out fast as well. You set the pace for that. I would definitely take it slow to create that physical connection because you’re looking to create the emotional connection first. That’s the key to getting a commitment with a man. You have to connect with a man emotionally. Physical men don’t connect and bond physically. It’s a physical act. You’re looking for that pace to be slow and steady so that it doesn’t burn out. Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. It’s a marathon in the beginning when you’re getting to know somebody. If he’s not pushing you to have sex, that’s great because he’s looking at you for someone serious. Don’t worry about that. That’s totally a blessing.
Willing To Talk About Your Relationship
Here’s the final sign that a man is going to commit to you. He’s willing to talk to you about your relationship. I recommend and I’ve talked about this before that on the first or second date, you are bringing up the topic of what his life plans are. All you have to do is say, “Where do you see yourself in five years? What do you have planned for your life? What’s your vision for your life?” Smile and wait for him to share that with you. At this point, there’s nothing invested. You’re not invested emotionally. He’s not invested emotionally. He knows what his plan is and that’s a non-threatening way to say it. Men know what their goals in life are like you do. Your goal is to get married or get into a committed relationship. You’re clear on that and they are too. Make it clear of what you’re looking for right in the beginning, in the first couple of dates. As I said, there’s no emotional investment yet. It rolls off the tongue much easier. It doesn’t feel any pressure on him and it’s a normal question to ask. You don’t want to waste your precious time. I’m all about encouraging not to waste time because I want you to fast track. Men, when they’re ready, they come right in. They are ready as you are.The relationship that started out fast, furious, and hot burns out fast as well. Click To Tweet
I want to leave you with this. Sometimes men are a little bit clueless when it comes to the commitment phase so be patient with them. Listen to them, trust your gut, and don’t be afraid to continue to communicate how you’re feeling in the relationship at every stage and see what response you get back. Checking in with them and saying things like, “What’s your vision for us? What’s your vision for our future together?” and smile. You expect him to tell you. If he does not share with you what his vision is for you, he’s either one, really afraid or two, he knows what his vision is and it doesn’t include you. It’s either that he’s in fear or he’s not including you in that vision and you need to know. If he doesn’t answer that question, I would let it sit for a day or two, then I would circle back to it and say, “I asked you a question the other day about what your vision was for us and you didn’t answer me. I found that was interesting. I want to ask you again and give you another opportunity to communicate with me. For the level of intimacy that we share, I feel I deserve an answer to that question. What is your vision for us?” Do you see how I set that tone? Do you see how I used that? It’s with a feather. It’s always gentle. It’s always curious. It’s not demanding.
You need the answers to these questions because you’re a high-value woman and your time is precious and valuable. When you ask those questions, he senses that. He needs to feel not too much pressure, but he needs to know that you will walk. You will vote with your feet and walk if he does not give you the answers that you’re asking for because you want a juicy, intimate, and deep relationship. That is a question that he is obligated to answer if you’re experiencing some depth and intimacy, especially physical intimacy after you’ve agreed that you’re on the same page in terms of what you’re looking for in life. Hold your standards up high lady, because then you’ll attract a man that will meet you there or he’ll rise up to meet you there. Let me tell you about my freebie, it’s my Soulmate Assessment. Go to SoulmateIQ.com and take my quiz. It’s going to give you an assessment of what frequency you’re vibrating at and how close you are to attracting your soulmate. I’m going to send you your assessment along with the feminine exercise so that you can shift further into alignment so that you can fast track your ability to attract your soulmate because I’m all about fast-tracking. Thank you for joining me. I hope this was helpful. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. I’m sending you lots and lots of love.