Watch my “What Would Oprah Say About Attracting Love” Video

This might not be your favorite thing to read, but my mission is to help you find the love of your life.  And sometime that mission requires me to be a little…lovingly honest.

If you’ve been alone for quite some time and have found yourself struggling to either find or keep a good man in your life, it’s time to ask yourself, what would Oprah do?

Oprah inspires me because she has committed to honoring a sacred pact with herself. She is on a life-long journey towards alignment and we can all take a page out of her book!

The physical manifestation of her commitment to consistently expanding her consciousness was the creation of Super Soul Sunday. Super Soul was born out of a longing to ALWAYS be growing. My guess is that if Oprah were sitting in your kitchen right now, she’d be encouraging you to look in the mirror!

It’s a tough pill to swallow, but if you don’t work on your own soul FIRST, attracting a soulmate will always feel like an uphill battle. You will attract people who mirror YOUR soul. So if your soul needs a clean up, so will theirs. If your soul is still wounded, you will attract wounded souls. NOT FUN!

What are some signs that your soul needs a little tune up before you can start attracting the right man?

1. You still say mean things about your ex or are still MAJORLY triggered by him.- If you are still spitting out words of contempt about your ex, you are harboring unhealthy anger. And two things will happen-you will either attract a man who is also angry, or you will attract a great man who isn’t going to put up with you dwelling on your ex! You’ve got to work on forgiving and releasing.
2. You haven’t learned to set boundaries– How do you know if you have this problem? You over-give and then resent the person you are over giving to. You put everyone else’s comfort first, which means you may give too much too soon just to keep a man happy, or put up with more than you should just “to keep the peace.” When you do this you fail to earn a man’s respect. You will attract men who are controlling and take advantage of your weak boundaries. You need to identify your non-negotiable values and stick to them. You need to learn to put yourself first!
3. You ignore your own intuition– I see this all the time. Bright women, broken by men who then say, “I KNEW something was off!” Of course you did! You are a woman and your intuition is naturally strong! So why do you ignore it? Is it loneliness? Disillusionment? Whatever it is, you SAW the red flags. You FELT the red flags, and you willingly leaned in anyway, putting yourself and your heart at risk. NO more. You’ve got to learn what your intuition sounds and feels like. And then BELIEVE IT!

The bottom line? You’ve got build yourself a Super Soul before you can attract a super love!

Go here now to start doing the work! Mark my word, it’s like a signal he can’t ignore. When you strengthen your own soul, you build a bridge that leads directly to your ideal man’s heart!

Watch my “Why Instant Attraction Isn’t Always Good” video

I’ve heard it a thousand times.

The second I saw him, my knees turned weak! I was shaking! My heart was racing. I wanted him so bad!

I can’t tell you how many emails I get from women who felt this way, mistook it for a “sign,” went home with him and found themselves hurt and confused when he never called again. Frantic energy almost always leads to heartbreak.

Conventional wisdom and more than a few fairy tales have taught us that this kind of weak in the knees reaction to a man is a sure sign that he’s the one!

Don’t believe the hype!

The feeling described above is certainly pleasant and exciting but it’s more likely a feeling of lust than a sign of a true love connection.

You see, spirit, intuition, whatever you want to call it, doesn’t speak frantically through racing hearts and manic energy.

Spirit speaks in whispers. In peace. In a feeling that you’ve known someone forever and can be exactly who you are.

This is true about everything! The conversation on finding your love is a big one. And the conventional wisdom is to “find your true love!” But the truth is, a lot of us have ideas that excite us, and then we are left confused when our enthusiasm wanes a few days later.

That’s because spirit speaks with PEACE and SERENITY.

Should you be enthused? Of course. But the enthusiasm should come from a  place of peaceful flow. Ease and grace. Certainty.

When I met Michael I was instantly attracted to him of course, but I didn’t feel frantic. I felt content. I noticed that my breath was steady and relaxed. It was almost… a given.

In Lady Chatterley’s Lover, D.H. Lawrence wrote of Lady Chatterley falling in love with Oliver Mellors. This line always stood out to me:

His face was pale and without expression, like that of a man submitting to fate.

That’s what real love feels like. Like fate handing you an invitation that you find yourself accepting, with a happy and peaceful obedience. Because you recognize it as YOURS.

Love,

Jaki

PS – I also wanted to let you know that you still have time to join me for Bridge to Love!

Bridge to Love is all about helping you awaken your confidence, your feminine energy, your joie de vivre  so that the right man—the one who will commit to you—can’t resist! Click here to join!

Click here to watch my video on “How to Feel Confident Around Attractive Men”

We’ve all been in the situation, or seen the scene in the movies, where the hot man walks in the room. Your heart stops, you suddenly can’t find words to say, or you might even blush as you talk to him because you can’t get over just how attractive he is.

While these butterflies are surely exhilarating at first, don’t let yourself get too consumed in the physical attraction. And don’t let your confidence dwindle!

Don’t doubt whether you are on his level or if he’s interested in you. Just be confident! Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re around an attractive man…

Don’t assume he’s great just because he’s great looking. It’s easy to get caught up in his good looks, but don’t overlook the type of person he is or what his values are. Good looks and good values don’t necessarily go hand in hand.

Learn to appreciate yourself. Confidence and real approval only come from within. If you feel triggered by an attractive man, it may cause some of your unconscious negative beliefs you have about yourself to surface. Feelings like you are unworthy or not good enough are feelings to work through and release, instead of allowing them to disempower you.

Remember that men are insecure too. Just because he’s attractive doesn’t mean he doesn’t have his own insecurities. People often assume good looking men are perfect. Don’t look at him as an object. Really see who he is and get to know him. Learn about his past and his challenges. Sometimes being good looking has challenges too you know.

You can never assume things about someone based on their looks. Be confident in who you are and get to know someone, attractive or not! Sometimes a guy you aren’t immediately physically attracted has such a way with words that you suddenly see him in a new, and sexier, light! Take chances!

To learn more about how you can find your soulmate, check out the Soulmate Assessment.

Take the assessment and discover the frequency you are vibrating at and how close you are to attracting your Soulmate!

You will receive a Feminine Exercise along with your Frequency Assessment to help you shift further into alignment so that you can Fast Track your ability to manifest your Soulmate love!

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Click here to watch my video on “3 Questions to Ask Before A Date When Dating Over 50”

Dating is time consuming, in both good and bad ways sometimes. It’s great when you are investing time getting to know the right person– asking the right questions to determine whether he’s date worthy or not.

It’s not so great when you are consumed dating someone that is a waste of your time because he either doesn’t have the same goals, isn’t opening up to you or the spark just isn’t there.

I tell clients every day to make the best use of your time by asking pre-qualifying questions when you date.

Here are 3 important questions to always ask a man you’re dating…

1. What do you do for work? Don’t assume that just because he’s an electrician, he’s not successful. Or just because he’s a lawyer, he has lots of money! Most of the time men don’t disclose their finances right off the bat. Instead, ask about his life and see what he shares in terms of his lifestyle. Pay attention to his spending and saving habits. He might work for one company, be retired, or maybe have his foot in several businesses. One of my clients was once on the phone with a man she was interested in when he asked her to “hold for a moment while he poured some wine…” She was confused and later learned he owned a winery! So, you just never know.
2. What’s your family like or what are your family goals? Ask your date about his family goals. Does he want more children or already have them? Ask about his children to learn more about him. He loves them more than anything in the world I’m sure, so you need to get to know them through conversations as you date. You also need to make sure their ages align with what you are looking for in your life. Are you wanting kids in the diaper phase again? Do you see yourself at soccer or college football games? Or maybe you’re closer to the grandparent stage of life!
3. What have your past relationships been like and what do you want in the future? Ask about his last relationship and whether it ended well with his ex. Has he ever been married? Why or why not? These are fair game questions you’ll want to ask, but also be prepared to answer yourself. Based on his answers, you can then ask him if he wants a long-term relationship. Make sure his relationship goals match up with yours. Be confident and courageously ask the questions, even if it’s hard.

There’s no right or wrong time to ask these questions, but don’t waste time avoiding them either. Be prepared early on so when you do ask them, you feel confident. Relax, don’t pressure him and he’ll be more likely to open up to you.

To learn more about how you can find your soulmate, check out the Soulmate Assessment.

Take the assessment and discover the frequency you are vibrating at and how close you are to attracting your Soulmate!

You will receive a Feminine Exercise along with your Frequency Assessment to help you shift further into alignment so that you can Fast Track your ability to manifest your Soulmate love!

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xo,

Jaki

Click here to watch my video on “3 Red Flags and The Subtle Signs to Watch Out for When Dating”

I know you’ve seen plenty of articles about what to watch out for when you’re dating – actions and emotions that come up as red flag warnings to alert you that maybe this ISN’T your dream man.

That’s all well and good, but why invest more time in a bad relationship than you need to? Instead of waiting for the red flags, watch out for these more subtle signs that you might want to move on!

1. Communication Issues: When your man does or says something that bothers you, are you comfortable saying so? Would he tell you if the situation were reversed? If you find yourself holding back or walking on eggshells, that’s a signal that all isn’t as it should be. And you know it in your gut! Think about it – can you see yourself going the distance with someone that you can’t be honest with? I talked last time about the importance of relaxing in a relationship. A communication barrier is not compatible with relaxation! Don’t do it.

2. Lack of Deep Discussions: No, not every conversation has to be about solving world problems. Go ahead and chat about celebrity gossip if you want to! But as a relationship continues, the two of you DO need to develop a deeper connection about your world views, your religion, your values and what’s important to you. This is critical for growing strong roots that create stability and growth for the long term. If ALL your conversations stay at the shallow end, or he seems to get uncomfortable if you tip toe into depth, watch out…and get out!

3. Lack of touch:  You need to have affection in your relationship! I’m not just talking about the obvious here either. I’m talking about the energy behind your legs brushing against his under the table, his hand on your leg, holding hands and sweet kisses. These are the “little things” that develop the day-to-day warmth and bonding that are vital to keeping your relationship strong. Sexual compatibility is a wonderful thing, but it’s not the only thing. If your only physical contact is in the bedroom, investigate that further.

Want to learn exactly how to flirt, how to captivate his attention and how to become the obsession he thinks about 24/7??? And what if you could do it with me RIGHT BESIDE YOU? Click here to learn how you can get an exclusive invite to our VIP New York City Retreat!

Your time is too precious to waste even one minute on a relationship that in the end is going to go nowhere. Don’t go looking for problems but keep these subtle signals in the back of your mind!

xo

Jaki