Dating in your 20s is dynamically different than dating in your 30s, 40s, 50s and even 60s! Just think about what a different person you were when you were 25 and how your experiences, loss, love, success and failures have all helped shape the person you are now (25+ years later!) The same thing goes for the men you are dating.
Dating over age 50 can be fun! You just need to go into it with a different mindset than you did 10+ years ago.
So divorced women over 50… listen up! Your first date since your split is a positive thing. It’s a chance to build a powerful connection and relationship with someone new.
Sure, it’s natural to have some anxiety about conversations and what to talk about on the first date. So, here are a few tips on how to make your first date conversations more relaxed and natural.
Here are “5 Things You Should Talk About” on a first date….
- Talk travel, not movies. Talk about topics and things that engender positive feelings and make you seem more attractive. Talk about holiday traditions, dream destinations and fun trips you’ve taken in the past that naturally bring up happy feelings. Your demeanor will light up as you talk about positive experiences or aspirations. He will feel and see that positive energy and naturally, be more attracted to you.
- It’s how you say it that matters the most. Don’t stress too much about topics of conversations and whether or not conversation will flow. You cannot predict what questions he will ask or how the conversation topics will lead one into another. What’s most important to remember is your tone. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it that matters most. Try to be an active participant in the conversations, asking questions but not dominating or being too passive. Display warmth and genuine interest in what your date is talking about.
- Be open with one another. Share secrets. Be open with one another and this will cut to the chase. Offering emotional, personal information on the first date can create powerful feelings of connection quickly! So no more awkward 2nd, 3rd and 4th For example, you might admit you were nervous before the date, cover hot-button topics instead of the mundane, or open up about specific experiences in your life that have changed who you are.
- Ask him if he likes the taste of beer. Ok, this one is an off-the-wall-question, but it can lead to more interesting conversations. Before you know it you could be talking about your favorite winery you love to visit, favorite drink to order when you’re out to eat, or what your wine of choice is when you’re enjoying a quiet night at home.
- Don’t dwell on your divorce or ex. If this topic gets brought up, avoid anger and bitterness. Answer any questions truthfully, then move on, focusing on the person sitting across from you. Remember, you’re there to get to know the man who asked you out, not to talk about your past like you would with your therapist. Don’t waste precious time together on stories of your ex. Share what you’ve learned from your past relationships but keep it brief.
So, there you have it ladies. These are a few things you can remember as you talk to and get to know this new man on your first date. Relax, enjoy yourself and most importantly, have fun!