I'm skiing in Whitefish, Montana with Michaels kids and grandkids, it’s a full family affair.

And honestly? I’m not feeling wildly “aspirational” right now.

I’m feeling real. I’m feeling present. I’m feeling focused on something simple that actually changes everything in life.

Connection.

One of the most powerful things I ever learned (and one of the most underrated skills I teach my clients) is this:

If you don’t create connection, you don’t create momentum.

Not in dating.

Not in business.

Not in life.

Because connection is what makes people remember you.

It’s what makes them trust you.

It’s what makes them want to continue the conversation.

And that’s what commitment really is.

A continued conversation.

One of my favorite phrases to teach my single ladies is this simple line:

“How’s your day going?”

It’s soft.

It’s easy.

It’s human.

It makes people feel seen.

And here’s the part most people miss…

That question isn’t just a dating tool.

It’s a life tool.

Because the truth is:

If you don’t make a connection, you won’t get a second date.

If you don’t make a connection, you won’t get the second interview.

If you don’t make a connection, it’s harder to inspire people to open a door for you, remember your name, or want you back in the room.

Right now I’m reading a book called Move the Room by Trevor Currie, all about elevating and amplifying your speaking skills.

And the more I read, the more I realize something:

The formula for a successful life is the same formula for a thriving relationship.

It’s not about performing.

It’s not about impressing.

It’s not about saying the perfect thing.

It’s about presence.

It’s about confidence.

It’s about making people feel safe with you.

It’s about learning how to speak in a way that lands.

That’s why speaking skills matter even if you’re not on a stage.

Because every day, you are on a stage.

You’re speaking in a first date.

You’re speaking in a job interview.

You’re speaking in a room full of strangers.

You’re speaking in the grocery store when you decide whether you’ll look down… or look up.

And this is the shift I want you to take into the rest of January:

Stop thinking your life changes when you meet the right person.

Start remembering your life changes when you become the person who knows how to connect.

Because connection creates confidence.

Confidence creates momentum.

Momentum creates new outcomes.

So here’s your simple assignment this week:

Ask one person a day:

“How’s your day going?”

Not to be polite.

To practice being powerful.

Because your next opportunity is not always hidden behind a big moment.

Sometimes it’s hidden in a small one.

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