I recently had the honor of sitting down with Lisa Goldenthal on the Whole CEO Podcast to dive into one of the most frustrating and painful parts of modern dating: ghosting. It’s happened to so many of us—one minute everything seems to be going well, and the next, silence. No explanation. No closure. Just gone.

If you’ve been left wondering what you did wrong or questioning your worth, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: ghosting says far more about him than it does about you. In my conversation with Lisa, we unpacked why ghosting happens, what it really means, and how to rebuild your confidence after it happens. If this resonates with you, you’ll want to keep reading.

Ghosting happens when someone chooses avoidance over communication. It’s often rooted in fear of confrontation, emotional immaturity, or disinterest. None of these reasons reflect on your value—they reflect their inability to handle relationships with respect and honesty. Ghosting isn’t about you; it’s about them.

Here’s a real-world example: Imagine you’ve been texting with a guy you met online. He seems fun, flirty, and even talks about meeting up. But then, out of nowhere, the texts stop. You start replaying every conversation in your head, wondering what went wrong. The reality? Maybe he wasn’t ready for something serious. Maybe he met someone else. Or maybe he’s simply emotionally unavailable and didn’t know how to communicate that. None of these scenarios are about you—they’re about his limitations.

So, how do you rebuild your confidence after ghosting? First, don’t take it personally. Ghosting is about the other person’s emotional state, not your worth. Shift your focus from “why” to what this experience can teach you about setting standards for the kind of partner you deserve. Reframe the narrative—ghosting can be a blessing in disguise, saving you from investing in someone who wasn’t ready for you. Finally, prioritize self-care. Focus on the things that make you feel empowered, radiant, and grounded.

It’s also helpful to recognize the red flags that often precede ghosting. These include inconsistent communication, avoiding deeper conversations, or focusing solely on surface-level interactions. If you notice these patterns early, trust your gut and reassess the connection. Remember, emotionally available men will make consistent effort and communicate openly.

During my conversation with Lisa, we also explored how to set stronger boundaries to avoid being ghosted in the future. The key is staying curious, not urgent. Allow relationships to unfold naturally without rushing toward an outcome. Pay attention to how someone shows up consistently over time, and don’t hesitate to communicate your expectations.

You deserve someone who respects and values you, someone who communicates clearly, even when it’s uncomfortable. Ghosting may sting, but it doesn’t define your worth. Take this as an opportunity to strengthen your boundaries and get crystal clear on what you want and deserve in a partner.

If this topic resonates with you, tune into my interview with Lisa Goldenthal on the WholeCEO Podcast. We take a deep dive into why ghosting happens, how to rebuild your confidence, and how to navigate dating with clarity and empowerment. To listen to the full episode, Click here.

Remember, ghosting isn’t the end of your story—it’s just a redirection to something better.

Sending you so much love,

Jaki